3T#6

i just got word about the whole 15k hantaran thingy.
it wasn't as shocking as we would normally expect,
but still very unnecessary and annoying to see.

my three thoughts regarding that whole debacle


1. it isn't abnormal to see hantaran figures now
as being a bit over-the-top and excessive. after
all, everyone lives in an instagram world, kan?

specially when one (or both) sides want to have a
fancy ceremony in fancy venues with fancy food
and fancy clothing and fancy wedding cards and
fancy gifts and fancy wedding photoshoots, etc, etc
and that's even BEFORE getting komen2 mokcik*

thing is, if you can't afford to get hitched, don't.


2. one thing that stood out was the logical difficulty
for that groom to raise 15k. apparently he earns 1.5k,
so it doesn't take a genius to figure how tricky it is.

if you really want to be with that person, and that
person is sincere to you, then don't make life miserable.
because there's nothing worse than letting go of
something dear, just to satisfy a ceremony craving.
is it really worth sacrificing happiness?

thing is, be reasonable. or be sorry.


3. for this couple, my personal opinion is, both families
never wanted it to succeed. you'll always find a reason
if you don't want it to work. kalu da tak suke tu kan...

now, the most important point of all, and do take note,
is that religion upholds the sanctity of marriage, and
makes it as simple and sensible to let it happen.
5 things; bride, groom, wali, 2 witnesses, ijab & qabul.
that's all it is. it REALLY is as sensible as that.


thing is, life is simple. people make things complicated.


* komen2 mokcik = ayat2 mokcik kat kenduri that are
horribly unnecessary and designed to criticize EVERYTHING,
regardless of whether it makes sense to or not.