take responsibility. and be ok with it.

i have a theory about life.

fate has this bizaare way of pushing us
further and making us better people.
all by NOT fulfilling what we want.

for example, you want a good paying job,
you want to do something interesting daily,
and you wanna spend time with your loved ones.

now, there are people out there who are lucky
enough to have all those things, but in most
cases, you'd only have 2 out of the 3.

you can't always have what you want.

now, one might argue that life is unfair
and that's just the way how crappy life is
and that's why we'll never be happy.

i view it as something to keep us going.

in my opinion, if you haven't reached all 3,
that gives you something to work for,
and something to look forward to in life.

it gives you a reason.

now, at times you are faced with a dilemma
of choosing your 2 out of 3's,
whatever those things might be to you.

how to choose which ones are more important?

unfortunately, there's no way to actually know.
but fortunately, i think there are ways to make
an informed decision, as best as you can.

think about your options, be fully aware of
the consequences of your choices, make a
firm decision, stick to what you've decided,
take responsibility for the good and the bad,
and do all of that for a good reason.

now, someday you might think back and
see whether it was the best decision or not,
but if you did it for a good reason,
then whatever came as a result of it,
is ultimately a good thing.

in my case, i might end up old and alone,
but at least i can look back someday and
know i put my loved ones first, ahead of me.

alhamdulillah.